CONTROL TOUR EJACULATION: THE STOP-START METHOD

The stop-start method aims at giving the man a sense of control over his ejaculations. It starts with masturbation. In a quiet, private, secure place where he can relax, the man stimulates himself up and down the length of his penis, so that what he feels is similar to what he would enjoy during intercourse. While doing this, he needs to concentrate on how he feels, especially in his penis. When he senses he is going to ejaculate, he stops and waits until this feeling completely passes. Then, he begins self-pleasuring all over again. He may continue in this manner until the fourth time of wanting to ejaculate, when he allows himself to do so. He continues these exercises over a period of time, until he can control his ejaculation to his satisfaction.

Now, if there’s a partner, she can become involved by caressing her lover in the way described above. He can control her hands and stop her when necessary. Sexual fantasies can be an important part of this process.

Once a man can delay his ejaculation with masturbation and with his lover’s manual stimulation, he’s ready to try intercourse. If s best to start with the woman on top, because in this position the man has less general body tension and his partner is free to stop moving when he signals her to do so. When the couple first begins intercourse, the man and woman may lie still for a while or may enjoy caressing each other in nongenital areas. Once thrusting begins, he can use the stop-start technique to avoid early ejaculation. He may want to hold on to her hips to control the movement and the stimulation he feels.

The next-to-the-last step in the process is for the woman to be able to thrust herself while on top, without the man being in control. However, he may stop her if he feels he will ejaculate too soon.

Reaping the benefits of this technique takes time. You should expect premature ejaculation to continue for a while as you’re becoming familiar with the method. Once you have mastered each phase (a week for each period would be expected), you can try other positions during intercourse.

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